whether we’re normal, or not, whether we’re smart, or not, and whether we’ve got our act together, or not. Plus, so many more things that we could get ourselves into a real depression if we kept worrying non-stop. We compare ourselves to others, which is not a bad thing if we keep it in perspective. Just because someone looks or acts like they’ve got this thing called life figured out doesn’t mean they actually do. Every one of us has hopes, dreams, fears, questions, and sometimes what appears to be answers. It’s what you end up doing with those thoughts that will make the difference in your life.
Depending on what has just occurred the mood changes and new questions arise. Often, we just give up and put our minds to the current task, which is a good thing because it’s the best thing we can do for ourselves in the moment. Give yourself more time to think.
It’s important, in my mind, that we reflect on our circumstances from time to time and see if we can figure out what we should do next. Ideally, we could establish some clear goals, thoughts on what we really want to do with our lives, and come up with plans to make it happen. Write it down. It will give you clarity to see your thoughts in print. Clarity, that’s what it’s all about.
Goals can change with time, but if you believe you’ve come up with the path you want to follow, then you must follow it or forever wonder “what if…?” We’ve all heard the advice of, “you really ought to” or “I don’t know why you don’t.” Listen to it, analyze it, and then either toss it aside as not what you want to do or seriously consider it. Often, that kind of advice is based on what others see in you as great potential. We sometimes don’t see that potential or that talent within ourselves as we are our own worst critics most often. Also, an important thing to remember is that goals can evolve and become slightly, or even profoundly, different than the way they started. That’s not a bad thing. Evolving is natural. As our minds open up to the potential we are given the opportunity to alter course much like tacking into the wind in a sailboat.
It’s important, above all, to keep moving forward, to keep thinking about what might be if we just could apply ourselves to the task. That doesn’t mean it’s going to happen overnight like magic. It takes a great deal of thought (which you’re already doing) to make things move in the right direction. I once heard that persistence makes success. It took Thomas Edison about 1000 tries before he succeeded in bringing the bulb into the light. Imagine what would not have happened if he had given up! Russell Wilson was told many times that he was too short to be a quarterback. Like hell he was! He knew he could do it! Persistence, get it?
Above all else, understand that if you can dream it, you can probably do it. But if your path changes direction it’s perfectly OK, just follow it. It’s leading you somewhere you may not have believed you could go.